HOME WHERE I BELONG

Romans 12:9-21

 

Some people have a knack for making you feel right at home—whether you are meeting them for the first time, or visiting them in their home for the 50th time.  Something about the way they treat you communicates that you belong, that you are welcome, that you are totally accepted right where you are and just as you are.

 

I have had that experience many times in my life as I have come to know Christians from all over the country as well as all over the world.  When the presence of Christ is so real that you know He is there, you cannot help but feeling right at home!

 

In India dining with good Christian friends, the vast cultural differences melted away because of the love of Christ.  In Africa visiting in the home of other believers, the distinctive nature of our individual worlds were insignificant as we felt right at home in a place where the joy of Christ was apparent.  In Poland, the language barriers and different political histories could not distract us from observing the rich goodness of Christ at work in their lives making us feel completely at ease…just like we were at home!

    

The same has been true as I have been in homes around this city and our nation.  Wherever we go where Jesus Christ dwells in His fullness, we can feel completely at home—He is there!

 

     Of all the places you should be able to feel right at home, when you come to the various meetings of the church here at Providence you should always feel at home.  That is because we always should be able to sense that we are accepted and that we belong and that we are valued and loved whenever we get together with other members of the body of Christ.

 

THESIS: Demonstrating character as the body of Christ always develops community within the body of Christ.

 

     When Paul wrote to the Romans, he urged them to give themselves fully to Christ so that the fullness of His life would be evident in them. 

 

Romans 12:1  I urge you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship.

 

When that happens, our lives begin to reflect His life and character and we find that we are not only transformed by the renewing of our minds (12:2), but the character of our lives becomes like His as we are “conformed to His image” (8:29).

 

     If the body of Christ lives out the genuine character of Christ, we cannot help but enjoy the blessing of genuine community in Christ.  The balance of Romans 12 offers a unique insight into how that can happen. 

 

     Let’s look at four principles that come from this text that apply to our commitment to building community and deepening the fellowship we have with one another in Christ.  As we look at these principles, let’s think about what we can do to put them into practice!

 

I.  A LOVING ENVIRONMENT CONVEYS OUR DEEPEST AFFECTIONS

 

--One of the greatest needs in every heart is the need to be loved, to know that someone cares.

 

--Where better to enjoy that deep sense of affection than when you come together with others who have made their home with Christ?

 

·          LOVE THAT IS…

 

A.  SINCERE

 

Rom. 12:9  Let love be without hypocrisy…

 

--If our love is superficial, insincere, hypocritical, the façade will wear thin quickly and our lack of love will become apparent.

 

--Therefore, if we find that we do not naturally do well in demonstrating love and struggle with an insincere heart, Paul goes on to challenge us not to give up or to give in.

 

B.  DEVOTED

 

Rom. 12:10  10Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;

 

--Sincere love will be accompanied by a devoted, undivided heart that will not relinquish its pursuit of genuine affection—it will keep on loving even when it does not feel like it or find compelling merit in the one to be loved.

 

--Devoted love persists until it perceives what Christ sees in the individual, or at the very least loves the  other person by faith knowing that Jesus loves them and so can we!

 

C.  HUMBLE

 

Rom. 12:10, 15-16  10…give preference to one another in honor…  15Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.  16Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation (do not be conceitedNIV).

 

--One of the biggest hurdles to overcome in our willingness to love one another without conditions and without showing preference is composed of pride, conceit, haughtiness.

 

--If we allow ourselves to do so, we will forsake our responsibility to love others because we are so intent on seeking love that we ignore our charge to give it.

 

--We want to be loved so badly by those we prefer that we short-change those who would profit greatly from the attention and care we could give them were we not consumed in our own selfish pursuits!

 

D.  DISARMING

 

--Sincere, devoted, humble love will always be disarming because it shows up where people least expect it and pushes aside all the reasons not to love others—it loves in spite of all those reasons!

 

--That is true even in the case of those who have actually hurt you and deserve to be shunned, pushed away—but we show the true presence of Christ when we love them anyway!

 

Romans 12:17-20 17Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men.  18If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.  19Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written,  “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.  20“But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head.”

 

1.  No Hint of Revenge (even blesses our persecutors)

 

--When strangers happen in among us and see that there is no bitterness, no pettiness, no spirit of revenge, no effort to return evil for evil—they know that they have stumbled onto something genuine, something that only God could produce.

 

2.  Peaceable

 

--They will see people who love each other enough to take the low place in humility before each other and who will hold no grudges but initiate whatever it takes to make peace and cultivate an environment of grace among the people called by the name of Christ!

 

II.  A HOSPITABLE ATTITUDE EXTENDS OUR WARMEST WELCOME

 

--Love in practice cannot help but show up in a spirit of hospitality which openly welcomes others with the warmth and affection of Jesus Christ.

 

[“hospitality” – Literally, “love of strangers”]

 

·          A HOSPITALITY THAT IS…

 

Romans 12:13 contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality.

 

A.  GENUINE

 

--Just as our love must be sincere, so our hospitality must be genuine, honestly and openly welcoming others into the family atmosphere where people “feel at home.”

 

--Granted, there are some who have the special spiritual  gift of hospitality, but all of us can practice hospitality in the way we treat each other.

 

--Hospitality is intended to put others at ease so that they feel comfortable, welcome and know that they are right where they belong!

 

B.  GENEROUS

 

--This kind of hospitality also has a very practical side in that it reaches out to contribute to those who have found themselves in need.

 

--That is usually thought to be financial need, and it certainly has that application, but it also recognizes that there are other needs in people’s lives that only the hospitality of a generous heart will recognize and meet—like the need to be accepted, the need to belong, the need to be loved—all of which cost us little but buy great blessings in the lives of those in whom we invest these things.

 

III.  AN ATTRACTIVE LIFE APPEALS TO OUR MOST NOBLE DESIRES

 

--Love and hospitality provide a solid foundation for building a warm, caring community.

 

--But there are a couple of other factors involved which Paul mentions in this passage as well…factors that appeal to the most noble desires of those who want to belong to something that is good, attractive and right.

 

People will look first for something that appeals to their good instincts, that is attractive to them personally.  But if they do not find it, eventually, they will settle for something less just to be able to belong.  Why not present a legitimate alternative that is attractive, appealing and a community that would be desirable by anyone?

 

·          A GOODNESS THAT IS…

 

A.  PURE

 

Rom. 12:9  9Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good… 21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

 

--Our life together will be good when we not only refrain from evil but agree together to abhor what is evil, to hate what grieves our heavenly Father and casts shadows upon the glory of Christ.

 

--Living for what is good attracts others to come alongside and join in a holy pursuit—because it is right and because you can always “feel at home” doing what is good and not sneak away into dark corners to hide what we are doing.

 

Our homes should be characterized by that kind of goodness that is pure so that all who come to our homes will feel safe, protected from what is evil, and free to enjoy all that goes on in that pure environment.

 

B.  RIGHTEOUS

 

Rom 12:17 17 Respect what is right in the sight of all men.

 

--When the community values are good and line up with all that God desires, it will be a place where we can gather around what is right in the sight of all men, what is respectable and good, what is desirable and honored by all.

 

--Godly people want what God wants and can feel good about pursuing godly ends together with others who have the same desires and objectives…we find great satisfaction when we know that our pursuits are noble and we are surrounded by like-minded people who care about us and what we care about.

 

IV.  A JOYFUL SPIRIT AWAKENS OUR HIGHEST HOPES.

 

--The last, and perhaps one of the greatest attractions to community (running a close second to love) is joy.

 

--When our lives are filled with joy, people find themselves wanting to rejoice with us.

 

The kids have always enjoyed the song by the puppet ministry called the “Laughing Song” because the majority of the song is just laughter.  Before you can catch yourself, you realize that you are laughing along as the joy of laughter has swept you up and caught you in waves of delight.  In much the same way, when you are around joyful people, even the grumpiest and most critical and negative people have a hard time resisting the urge to rejoice with them.

 

--In this passage, Paul describes this kind of joy.

 

Romans 12:12, 15 12rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer…15Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.

 

·          A JOY THAT IS…

 

A.  FERVENT

 

--Just as we are exhorted to be “fervent in spirit” (12:11), so we need to be fervent in our expressions of joy, rejoicing with great eagerness and warmth.

 

--There is something about joy that cannot be anything less than fervent, anything less that enthusiastic, anything less than exciting.

 

--When there is excitement and fervent joy in the lives of the community of Christ and in the fellowship of faith, curious folks will show up just to see what is going on!

 

--In a world so full of sorrow and hopelessness, finding a place full of joy captures the attention of those who happen upon it…may we spread it freely wherever we go!

 

We are also called upon to “weep with those who weep.”  There is a time for that and true community will also come alongside those who mourn and will bear their burdens with them—just as we said last week.  But even though God calls us through times of brokenness and through times of grief, the normal state for a child of the King of Glory is JOY!

 

B.  ENCOURAGING

 

--Such joy encourages those it touches and makes them want to take their place among those who rejoice together.

 

--Though your sorrows may last for the night, joy comes in the morning! (Psalm 30:5)

 

--There is something unusually healing and encouraging and faith-building…and welcoming…about a community filled with the inexpressible joy of Jesus Christ!

 

C.  CONTAGIOUS

 

--And that joy is contagious!

 

Everyone who comes through the doors here at Providence should be able to feel right at home!  They should see and experience genuine biblical community and enjoy the fellowship of the Spirit as those around them live out the life of Jesus Christ and model His character in the way they relate to one another.

 

Demonstrating character as the body of Christ always develops community within the body of Christ.

 

     What is God calling you to do to present yourself as a living sacrifice to Him today that will contribute to the fellowship of Christ here?  What does He want to build into your life that may be lacking, but when present would greatly enhance the sense of community here in this body of believers?

 

     God will develop the community if we will demonstrate the character of His Son!

 

June 1, 2003

Providence Baptist Church


© David Horner 2003

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