LOVE THE LORD, LOVE ONE ANOTHER

Matthew 22:34-40

 

One of the greatest mysteries for me as a Christian is why some of the most unloving things I have ever experienced have been at the hands of others who profess to know and love Christ.  People will say the meanest things and expect you not only to allow it but to thank them for their cruelty.

 

     Since most of us have suffered from that kind of abuse at one time or another, I will not risk reminding you of particulars and lead you into sin by having you recall the memories of those awful encounters.

 

     Nearly always, there is at least a hint that what they are doing is because they love God so much they cannot help but be mean to you for His sake!  He probably would do it Himself but He’s so busy and everything…

 

     What I realized was that these folks have heard or understood only half of Jesus’ answer to the question of what is the great commandment.  They love God, they say.  But they have a strange way of showing it…they say they love you too, but only “in the Lord.”  Jesus says without compromise that the commandment foremost in His eyes, in the eyes of God is to love God so much that loving others cannot be helped.  It is the result of the overflow of such a joyful, life-changing heart transformation that love does abound.

 

THESIS:  You cannot love God and not love your neighbor because loving Him makes it impossible NOT to love your neighbor.

 

I.  THE GREAT AND FOREMOST COMMANDMENT

 

--Both a commandment from God and a commitment from His followers to love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.

 

--Last week we explored that in some detail and now come to the second part of the passage.

 

II.  THE NEXT GREATEST COMMANDMENT

 

Matthew 22:39  “The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’

 

A.  LOVE FOR GOD RESULTS IN LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER.

 

1 John 4:19-21  We love, because He first loved us.  20 If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen.  21 And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.

 

--Love that is genuine for God finds practical expression in genuine love for other people.

 

Some people make much of the part of the words “as yourself” and justify self-love as if it were equal to love for God.  While the implication is that we do love ourselves, it is  wrong to suggest that we should love ourselves in a natural way:


    
u demands center of attention, constant recognition


    
u pushes self to front


    
u insists on being right, getting own way


    
u ignores others while absorbed with self


     Loving yourself in a godly way depends on a renewed heart and a death to the old, selfish nature.  A godly love for yourself consists of several Christ-centered traits:


    
u practice sound judgment in your estimation of yourself


              Romans 12:3 “not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think, but to think so as to have sound judgment…”


     u esteem others more highly than yourself

 

 Phil 2:3 “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit but with humility of mind let each of your regard one another as more                                     important than himself”

 

     u see the interests of others as more important than yours


               Phil 2:4 “do not merely look out for your own interests, but also for the interests of others”


     u walk humbly before God and others

 

      Matt 23:11-12 “The greatest among you shall be you servant, and whoever exalts himself shall be humbled; and whoever            humbles himself shall be exalted.”


      Only when we view ourselves from Christ’s perspective can we properly love our neighbor as ourselves.

 

B.  LOVE FOR GOD AND ONE ANOTHER RESULTS IN GODLY LIVING.

 

Matthew 22:40 “On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.”

 

--When Jesus identified these two commandments as the pinnacle of the law of God, He was establishing a principle that we cannot afford to miss.

 

--Believing all the right things, teaching in the right way, keeping all the right laws…none of these can sufficiently bring glory to God if there is no love.

 

1 Corinthians 13:1-3  If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  2 And if I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

 

--All the Law and the Prophets depend on a foundation of love for God and the essential partnering love for others.

 

--So the message Christ gives us explains that by keeping these two commandments, if we just look at the Law as contained in the Ten Commandments, we find all are fulfilled completely.

 

--Superficial theology leads to poor treatment of others since what we think about God directly influences what we think about others…the loftier the theology, the broader the base of love.

 

--How we love God determines how we love others.

 

C.  LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER RESULTS FROM AN AUTHENTIC FAITH.

 

--Our love for God changes our hearts, transforms our character and enlarges and reshapes our capacity to love.

 

1.  Love Them for Christ’s Sake

 

--If we truly love Christ, we will love what He loves and those whom He loves and do it for His sake.

 

How many times have we as parents grown to love what our children love simply because they do?  We learn to love some interesting friends…some odd choices of music…some unusual places to eat (Chuck-E-Cheese anyone?) all for their sake because we love them.  Or what about the things we do for love of our spouse?  Ballgames in horrible weather…shopping on sunny afternoons…trying to look interested in the blow-by-blow replay of his every shot on the golf course…or the subtle distinctions in the ten fabrics she saw which might work with her décor.  We do it for the sake of the one we love!

 

--People we would probably not be interested in meeting much less loving become candidates for unconditional love to us all for the sake of our love for those Christ loves.

 

2.  Love Them from Christ’s Perspective

 

--When we love for Christ’s sake, we also love from His perspective, seeing what He sees, looking at things the way He does.

 

--In order to do that, all we need to do is recall how He loved the people with whom He crossed paths during His earthly ministry.

 

a.  Love that Serves

 

--Christ took the low place right from the beginning so that instead of coming to a royal family with great wealth, He chose to join a family of humble means and little influence.

 

--He did not cater to the wealthy in order to get something from them in return—neither the prestige and ego boost some people seem to need, nor to tap into their generous nature to profit from their friendship.

 

--He chose to love people as a servant, not looking to get but to take the low place and give.

 

Matthew 20:28  just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”

 

b.  Love that Sacrifices

 

--When we love from Christ’s perspective, we realize that no sacrifice is too great to make when love is at stake.

 

Galatians 2:20  “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me, and delivered Himself up for me.

 

--Loving from Christ’s perspective means delivering yourself up for others…giving up what you have a right to have for the sake of another person…that is sacrifice!

 

c.  Love that Stretches

 

--When Christ loves, He stretches His arms out to draw in people of every sort and shape—every personality and temperament—every background and heritage.

 

--Learning to love God as the foremost love of our lives opens our eyes to see people as He does and allows us to love them the way He does.

 

--There have been many times over the years here at Providence when I have not wanted to get involved, not wanted to risk getting trapped in an uncomfortable situation, in fact wanting to do anything but extend the love of Christ to someone who really needed it.

 

--If I love God with all my heart, soul and mind, I can do nothing less than love His own and do so just like Jesus did.

 

3.  Love Them with Christ’s Compassion

 

Matthew 12:20  “A battered reed He will not break off, And a smoldering wick He will not put out, Until He leads justice to victory.

 

--In most of our lives, there is more smoldering than flaming, more smoke than fire, and as a result we brace ourselves for rejection and withholding of love.

 

--Christ does the opposite in that He gently takes the “smoldering wick” and sends His breath in softest whispers that encourage and revitalize the fires of grace He has ignited in our hearts.

 

Thomas Watson said, “It is the manner of the world, if they see a little failure in another, to pass by and quench a great deal of worth because of that failure.  This is our nature, to aggravate a little fault and diminish a great deal of virtue…”

 

--When Christ sees even the least sparks of good, the smallest remnant of hope, the remotest indication of warmth, He does not put out the smoking wick but coaxes it by His love back into a brilliant flame.

 

--That is what authentic love does when it demonstrates our true and comprehensive love for God in the way He loves us.

 

4.  Love Them toward Christ’s Image

 

--We don’t love folks just for their sake or ours—we love them to invest in their reformation and transformation into His image.

 

a.  Honest Words

 

--We speak the truth to them…in love, in the hopes that they have the heart of a disciple and the wisdom to want to learn so that they might be made more like Jesus.

 

Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.

 

--We don’t have to be mean about it, but it is important that we be faithful friends and that we find faithful friends who will love us enough to tell us the truth—friends who are more loyal to Christ than they are to us!

 

b.  Earnest Counsel

 

--Not only do we tell the truth in love, but we make sure that what we speak is true by measuring all the counsel we give by the standard of Scripture.

 

Proverbs 27:9 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one’s friend springs from his earnest counsel.

 

--Am I inclined to tell my friends what they want to hear, what they think will make them happy…or do I not have to speak with earnest, sincere counsel those words which will bring the greatest glory to Christ and good to their lives?

 

c.  Sharpening Influence

 

--This love we are to demonstrate toward others will serve to sharpen them, just as it in turn sharpens us…the result of rubbing up against the source of some friction to keep the edges honed.

 

Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.

 

--Whose life is being sharpened by you today because you love them enough to see them conformed to the image of Jesus Christ?

 

The brilliant combination of loving God and loving your neighbor results in a life filled with the joy and delight of abiding in His love.

 

     As those who have been created to love God with every capacity in our being, we have to understand that doing so can never take away our calling to personalize that love in the way we respond to those around us…regardless of who they are and what they are like!

 

     Our love must burn for Christ and for those around us.  John summarizes this entire subject well:

 

1 John 4:8, 11 The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love…Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

 

May 30, 2004

Providence Baptist Church


© David Hornier 2004

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